There is an old saying that goes like this: The fourth time is the charm.
I'm pretty sure that's how it goes. It's a very ancient saying.... you've probably only heard of its more contemporary cousin.
Okay, so the fourth time may not be the charm, but sometimes in life there are mysteries that just don't come together until you have all the pieces. And, for some of us extra-special people, all the pieces can take a lot of tries to gather.
So, as I near the finish line on this last time around, there are a few things I've learned about myself in labor that I hope may help me this time around.
1. My babies don't engage in the pelvis. It literally took me three tries to figure this one out. I couldn't find any information on it. No doctor ever told me... aside from the fact that I have the hat trick on doctors and nurses who exclaimed, "WOW!! These babies are high up!!" immediately before or even after hours and hours (and hours) of labor. (Sidenote: what does that even mean?! I'm just a mom laying here spread eagle, trying to have a baby! HOW IS THIS HELPFUL INFORMATION?! More importantly: what can I do about it?)
Much more helpful is the information I've stumbled across during this pregnancy (whole article here):
"Lack of engagement is a common issue for the woman who labors but the baby remains high in the pelvis. For about half the cases, the uterus gets overworked trying to get a baby into the pelvis for days of labor. Contractions may be very, very strong and very grinding on the pubic bone and dilation isn’t the predictive factor."
Ah-HA! Now, that sounds familiar! Even more familiar: